If you cannot support yourself, then you should not be getting married or raising a family. That means that you will qualify for public assistance and you will be ABAWD. If you go on public assistance and start raising a family, you are showing contempt for the tax payers who are supporting you. If you find yourself on public assistance after having already started a family, then having a family makes it that much harder to get off public assistance. You should not start a family unless you are not at risk of falling into poverty.

Having a family is something that requires a minimum level of personal prosperity and achievement. If you cannot demonstrate that level of economic security, you should not start a family. If you do not burden the tax payers with a family and are not able to provide for yourself, then you deserve public assistance as much as a family and maybe more.

It should also be understood that having a job does not disqualify you from public assistance if what you make does not exceed a certain amount. This is important in making it possible for impoverished individuals to take more jobs available to them.