Thread: Can't wait to leave this hell hole of California

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Why does the bully get away with being a bully? -because he can.

I say this, mom, send your kid to Judo, Karate, Kung-fu, Taekwondo lessons, do whatever it takes to get him to stand up for himself.

This is the metaphor of the situation -

Your son = America

Those kids in the bathroom = illegal alien influx.

Am I wrong? Tell your kid to go to the football team, tell him what happens when he goes to the bathroom alone- he gets mugged. I bet the entire definsive line of the football team would gladly escort him to the bathroom and kick some ass if need be.

Why do these latino gangsters get away with this crap? Because we let them!

Get the football team involved, I bet they would love to get involved!

Don't let the bastards get you down, and sign your kid up for some self-defense classes.

To kick us out of our own bathroom, city, town, state and country - this is what the illegals are trying to do - and being successful on many fronts.

Imagine if your kid and his friends, kicked this gang's ass (when threatened with violence, I'm not advocating initiating violence) to the point where the latino gang would think twice or thrice about doing it again?

Mom, make your son a strong American leader.

Don't give up, I know what it's like, I've been there. I am from Cali too, don't leave the state, stay and fight!!!!

JON

You are so on the money!!
The ONLY way that this crap ever got a foothold is by parents NOT
demanding that it stop and by kids going "the long way round" so to
speak. We must take the responsibility and then buck up and fight it
with every tool available.

Yup, SUN.......get that boy some self defense classes and you'll see
a new & exciting confidence well up within him. The bullies WON'T
even try to mess with him in most cases as they smell the confidence
and shy away from it.

sunset, I have a 13 year old son, who is truly softhearted (when I say this I mean a kid who handles baby animals and also his toddler nephew with TLC), and for a while where we live right now, would just get upset over the illegals kids picking at him.

However, something this last summer snapped inside of him. He stopped being so nice and just walking away. Now when any of these kids try to start baloney with him, he gives them a big smack on the arm as a warning, but if he must he will give it all to them.

So far several smart aleks have thought they could just say garbage to him, or try to kick him, and they have since decided it was not such a good idea.

He has lost his fear, and even stood face to face with the prior maintenance guys 15 year old son who had taken his dog into our yard to go after our cat. Our son went to the back and caught hi in the act and confronted him, told him to get out of our yard, the kids said no, my son (at the time was 12) said "I think you will leave my yard, and leave my cat alone". This kid was not too sure what to think of him.

You have to encourage your son to stand up for himself, and not be afraid of these jerks, as they thrive on his and other kids fears. If a self-defense class will help, look around for a class. If money is the issue, then talk to the instructor about your need, and why.

My son found his power young, it was the best thing that happened to him, now the illegals bully kids fear his wrath if they cross the line with his little sister, himself, or saying anything about his flag and his country. We have even seen the older teens avoid him (he is kind of big for his age 5'6" and 155#). He is not mean, he is kind and helpful to the little kids when even they are being picked on, the others just know to bypass him.

One of my kids got bullied. After replacing school books, a NHL jacket and they also took his replacement jacket an NFL but it was recovered from the dumpster. Added up to a 2-3 hundred dollars worth of losses. These boys were constantly taking his things. The school couldn't do anything because they "didn't see it happen". These boys were warned, their parents had been contacted.

I snapped after they ganged up on him in gym. All three of them pinned him and beat on him. Once again, the school didn't see anything. I was POed. So I went to the police and filed a complaint. I wrote letters to the parents and I included the police report number. The principle addressed my letters and mailed them for me and I gave her a copy of the letter. One out of three parents called me and she was appalled by her son's behavior and forbade him from associating with the other two boys. I never heard from the other two but my letter got my point across. In the letter, I told the parents if your child and his buddies gang up on my child again, I will press charges. I stopped it cold.

Also, I told my son not to tolerate that crap. He is the passive type. I said the next time a guy pulls an aggressive stunt with you, kick his ass and dot his eye. You know, you stand up to a bully one time and they back off for good because you gain the reputation that you will fight back. Sure enough, about 3 months later, he got into a totally trash the classroom (chairs everywhere) pulled apart by teachers fight with a different boy and he never had another problem. I didn't punish him either. That was the only time one of my kids was sent home from school and suspended for a few days. It was worth it!

You don't have to depend on the school to take care of your kid. I was willing to have the little monsters thrown in juvenile detention. That gang mentality really burns me up.

Dixie

My daughter made it clear to them not to mess with her. It also helped in the high school she went to the different ethnic groups stick together. Being raised with Eastern European grandparents, my daughter hung out with that group. Many of them especailly the Russians can't stand Hispanics so she would have backup if she needed it.
Schools are notorious for not getting involved in confrontations. My daughter had that experience in Canada as well. She learned quickly how to deal with that mentality. It seems that the bully's parents see no problem with their child's behavior and often threaten to sue the school for harrassing their child. I actually had one teacher tell me that she had witnessed it in the past. These kids are taught to be like that by their parents. Where I live they scream as if someone is attempting to abduct them and if you say something the parent(s) tell you off. I don't even go by the pool for that reason as well as fear of catching a disease from them as many are illegal and their hygeine is poor. They also teach their kids to bring weapons to school such as knives and razor blades. I was lucky as my daughter's former high school consisted of mostly Jewish teens so it wasn't bad but the other high school nearby is. They have fights there often and they involve weapons. Many parents who are concerned have their daughter carry a razor blade. The one sharp end is covered and it is concealed in cardboard and then it is put in the daughters hair if her hair is long and she can put it up. This is sad but true.

bullies are only as bad as the company they keep..

Sunset,
As much as I deplore violence of any kind and Lord knows I have seen more than my share, I must agree with the other posters on here.
Many years ago when I was in school I was always short and thin and always being picked on, I finally had enough and spent one summer working out and had a friend teach me a few simple martial arts moves, the next school year I was being picked on, one guy was holding me and the other was going to hit me, I broke away and hit the other guy in his face hard enough to knock him down, after that word got around to leave the skinny kid alone.
As a boy grows into a man he must learn to stand up for himself even if it means he gets beat. However the hard part is to learn when to run and when to fight, some of these kids can be down right brutal so a word of caution is advised.
Best wishes.

Thanks for the replies everyone. He started self defense(boxing and kick boxing) last week. We are going to raise that confidence and give
him a sense of self esteem, dignity and respect. NOT FEAR.

We met another Father whose kid was jumped by SIX Mexicans
and he was also shy, quiet and wore glasses. He enrolled his son
because of the same situation. Needless to say his son was skull
dragged by six Mexicans and they were ALL allowed to return
to school. I'm sick and not sure what the hell I would do in that
situation but I'm pretty sure I would be in jail.

Yeah sunsetincali, I too would have been in jail. I would have found the parent, had a talk, and if they tried to explain away their juvenile delinquents behavior, or gotten cocky with me, I would have lost it.

I have little tolerance for people who do not manage their kids and then have the mentallity that their little angels are doing nothing wrong.

Fortunately, even my 9 year old daughter has gotten her voice and guts. She stood up to an 11 year old girl who was threatening to hit her. She got in her face and asked her to say what she said at a distance, a little closer. It ended there. She is tall for her age, and built like a horse (it's her fathers German/Polish genetics), not many of these girls now try much.

It is good if they have seen someone they love being bold, she saw her brother, so that was her cue.