Judy I really do agree with you. For years I have done my research on this subject because I get sick and tired of everyone feeling sorry for these families because they have bought into a big lie.
When I lived in El Paso I belonged to a group that funded and supported a orphanage in Mexico. After making numerous trips into Mexico to visit the orphanage I found out that these were not orphans at all. They were what was known as street kids. Street kids were a big problem in Mexico. They were children that were primarily abandoned by their families if they could not contribute to the family. They lived on the streets begging and stealing in order to survive. They were molested and abused and many became drug addicts. I kept asking myself what kind of parent could simply throw little children away. I have always felt that Mexico solved this problem by sending them over the border.
I know that many parents have left their children in Mexico (for years) and came to the U.S. and then started families here in the U.S. I also know that many fathers have left their families in Mexico and started numerous families in the U.S. When deported back to Mexico a lot of fathers leave their families in the U.S. and start new families in Mexico.
I know there are a lot of good Mexicans that are really trying to give a better life to their children, but I also know their is a culture of Mexicans that use their children to their benefit and if they become a liability or interfere with their plans simply walk away.
When illegal parents are deported and they leave them with family or friends, they usually become foster parents for that child and in California we not only pay welfare for each child, but we pay over $800 a month per child to the foster parent. So yes it is a rip off and once again we are fed a pity story as to how it is our fault.