Thread: reported my salvadorian "husband" to ICE

Originally Posted by bchapp

Wow, sounds like you are living in hell. If your husband is physically abusing you, call the police and have him arrested. Get a restraining order so he has to stay away from you. Contact your local Women in Distress, they are a wealth of info and support. They can provide you with a place to stay, clothes, legal aid, a job, prenatal care, educational programs, and whatever you need to get out of this nightmare. Verbal or physical abuse, get out of this situation. Do not bring a helpless child into the world to be around this man who will abuse it too.

Don't worry what your illegal husband says about Americans. You are doing the right thing and 80% of America stands behind you!

I absolutely agree!

Ritarose, I hope you get out of this situation and find safety!

Welcome to Alipac!

See a lawyer - some are free for abused women. Kick the rat out! Report both him and his brother to ICE.

Ritarose, please make sure you protect yourself at all costs. Go to an area hospital or doctors office (your OB/GYN) and tell them you are afraid of your husband, and that he has threatened you, they will get you help immediately. Absolutely do not go back to your home for ANY reason. Follow the advice of either the police and/or an abuse helpline to the "T".

Please come back to let us know if you are ok. We will be praying for you.

I'm sorry, but if you knew the dead-beat was an illegal before you married him...You reap what you sew. You should have seen this train wreck coming. You have a mess that you helped creat. And ; unless I'm wrong, the fact that you wed the guy makes him a legal resident. Believe me when I say "I know what it's like to be poor" but wedding someone for a paycheck is wrong. To me it's no different then the people who go to home depot and shop for illegal labor and say "I had to because I couldn't find any legal workers"....It's all B.S. to me. This is why we are fighting like dogs just to keep a fractoin of what our great country was founded on.

As far as advice. Divorce the guy and move to a different state. Ask for any assistance you can get. (if you are religious or don't mind religious folks) then get with a church that WILL help you get your life back in order. If you can find a program that will help you go to some type of trade school (like nurses aid), then you will be moving your and your child's life in a possitive direction. I think you are looking at a few rough years, but you can do it with the right determination..Good luck..Johnny

And ; unless I'm wrong, the fact that you wed the guy makes him a legal resident.

No, they have to be married for a minimum of two years before he is made "legal", that's probably why he has not beat the living daylights out of her and left her, yet, but it will happen unless she gets out now (a friends daughter is in the SAME position, it is killing them to have to watch, they cannot force her to leave him).

Ritarose, get out now before the two years, make sure he is seen for what he is, get him deported and cut contact with the man (if you can call him that at all) and be grateful God has kept you safe.

Originally Posted by blackz28

I'm sorry, but if you knew the dead-beat was an illegal before you married him...You reap what you sew. You should have seen this train wreck coming. You have a mess that you helped creat. And ; unless I'm wrong, the fact that you wed the guy makes him a legal resident. Believe me when I say "I know what it's like to be poor" but wedding someone for a paycheck is wrong. To me it's no different then the people who go to home depot and shop for illegal labor and say "I had to because I couldn't find any legal workers"....It's all B.S. to me. This is why we are fighting like dogs just to keep a fractoin of what our great country was founded on.

I agree. No sympathy here...sorry.

Hey guys, come on. Everyone is entitled to their one mistake. Hopefully Rita has learned from it and will move on, stay safe, and find someone to care for her and her child. Was this child his? I sort of hope not.

I think it's common to be enticed into bad marriages at a younger age. At an older age, hopefully people have more sense, but you never know.

Many people are just not as aware of the issue of illegal immigration as we would like them to be. I don't judge.

Anyway, stay safe, Rita, welcome, and good luck.

Welcome to Alipac, ritarose. I hope your situation improves. I also hope both these guys are deported, for your sake and for the sake of our laws.

Being married for 2 years isn't enough, you also have to partake in at least 3 conferences with a immigration specialist to judge whether or not your in a real marriage during that 2 year time period.

Still divorce him.

As far as knowing he was an illegal alien before you married him, love makes people do stupid things. My ex-wife is an illegal alien, can't get ICE to physically deport her.